Traps:
1. We fail to aknowledge happiness is complex
2. We confuse experiencing self and the remembering self
3. We are prone to reducing the significance of things that could make us unhappy
About the tyranny of the remembering self
Remembered experiences are judged by their end state. Calming down or having reduced anguish in the end produces a less horrible remebered experience.Moments of remebered experience are lost to real experience, lost opportunities ot make up bad experiences.
The duration of the experience has little impact on the memory.
Choices are made between memories, not experiences.
We need to wonder why we cherish memories so much.
It is very difficult to think straight about wellbeing as the remembering self will decide about things in a skewed way.
The two Hapinesses
How happy is the remembering self vs. the experiencing life.There is a low 0.5 correlation between a persons satisfacion with his life and his present happiness.
Remembered happiness is determined by money and goals
Experienced happiness is determined by spending time with people we like
Making less than 60.000 USD/50.000 USD makes you unhappy, making more won't make you more happy.
A strategy for happiness
1. Find easy to have happy experiences2. Make sure the end is happy
3. Have goals
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